Frequently Asked Questions
How can I find a therapist trained in the Tools techniques?
Send us an email (click on the email icon at the bottom of the page) with your contact information and we will send you a list of practitioners who are familiar with the Tools.
A support group would really help me make the Tools a part of my daily life. Are there Tools groups I can join?
For information about Tools groups, click on the “Groups” link at the top of the page. There you’ll find information about forming a group, joining a group, and the protocols we advise for such groups, whether they meet in person or online.
Where can I find out more about The Tools and the life philosophy underlying the book?
We issue a free, monthly newsletter called “Hidden Connections,” in which we describe a specific problem that many people grapple with and describe the power of the Tools to deal with it. To become a subscriber, join our mailing list at the bottom of this page. Also, check our Facebook page and Twitter feed regularly – we post information, interesting discussion questions and quotations you’ll find inspiring and that will help you remain consistent in your practice.
I am a mental health practitioner who is interested in incorporating the Tools into my practice. Where can I receive Tools training?
A formal program is not yet available. If you email us (click on the icon at the bottom of the page) and let us know of your interest, we will contact you with information about upcoming workshops. You can also gather a group of practitioners who are interested in the Tools and contact us for an exclusive Skype training seminar.
Where can I find information about Tools workshops or online seminars?
Join our mailing list (enter your email at the bottom of the page). We’ll keep you informed of upcoming workshops and online seminars. Or check the “Events” page on this site for a complete listing of upcoming opportunities to explore the Tools with us.
I’m interested in having Phil and Barry to speak to my organization or group.
Please contact the Random House Speakers Bureaus at email@example.com or call 212.572.2013 for more information.
I’d like to make the Tools a part of my current therapy. Is it appropriate to ask my therapist to incorporate the Tools into our work?
In no way do we want to interfere with your relationship with your therapist. That said, if the Tools help you, there is no reason you shouldn’t continue to benefit from them. Ask your therapist whether the tools can be integrated into the psychotherapy you are already engaged in. If your therapist is interested in learning more, you can direct him or her to the book or this website for an introduction to our method.
How quickly should I expect to see a difference once I start using the Tools?
Believe it or not, when we teach a patient a Tool we commonly get a tangible result within a week. That doesn’t mean the person is changed for life, but what it does mean is that they have been given the confidence to continue to use the Tools with discipline. We don’t agree with the old school therapeutic assumption that permanent change has to start slowly and take a long time. Change can begin quickly; permanent change, however, requires commitment. In our view, the important thing is that a person experience the possibility of change as quickly as possible. We’ve met many patients who’ve been in therapy for years with no change that they could discern. Once they start using the Tools, they become active participants in their own change.
Can Phil and Barry answer personal questions that relate to The Tools?
We do our best to answer as many readers as we can, but often the volume of correspondence is simply too high for us to answer every question individually. However, most questions can be answered by reading The Tools again and again and by using the Tools throughout the day. Each time you read the book, you will find new things in it. The more frequently you use the Tools, the more you will find the right answers coming to you. This is the highest form of wisdom, because it comes from your own effort and your own experience with higher forces. We’re not the final authority on higher forces – they are.
There’s another resource that will help answer your questions: other people who use the Tools. It’s one of the benefits of organizing your own Tools group (see the “Groups” link at the top of the page). When like-minded people get together regularly with a shared sense of purpose, they almost always find answers that individuals, acting alone, wouldn’t be able to. You can attribute this to the collective unconscious or to higher wisdom or to simple problem solving. Whatever the explanation – it works.
If you still feel as though your question has not been satisfactorily answered, you can send us an email by clicking on the icon below. Even if we cannot answer you personally, we try to address questions that come up frequently on Facebook and in our monthly newsletter (mentioned above).
I am not good at visualizing and it seems that these Tools require a user to visualize well.
Interestingly, we’ve had many people (including ourselves) reap tremendous benefits from the Tools, even though they were not particularly good at visualizing. Remember, the goal here is not to create visual images; the goal is to connect you with forces that will allow you to accomplish things you’ve never been able to do before. You need to try to do the visualizations, but the most important thing is to experience higher forces in whatever form they emerge inside you. The best advice we can give you is to not pre-judge what you’re capable of. Follow the directions carefully and be open-minded about what can happen. You will probably be surprised by the results.
What can the Tools app do for me?
We are deadly serious about making sure you use the Tools assiduously and incorporate them into your daily life. One of the most powerful instruments in that regard is the app—it serves as a reminder of how important it is to use the Tools in real time. Once you download it to your phone or tablet, you can’t use the common excuse that you forgot how to use the Tool. The Tools will be with you all the time. We also encourage you to customize your cues on the app to remind you very specifically of the instances when the Tools should be put into action. It’s like having a portable therapist in your pocket. However, we do strongly recommend that you read the book first. The Tools are much more powerful when you have an in depth understanding of when and how to use them and the principles behind them.
I followed the instructions for the Tools, but I didn’t feel anything.
Learning to use the Tools is like any other skill. It takes time to master. In our society, we demand immediate results. The moment we don’t get them, we tend to quit. Those moments—when you want to give up—are the moments when it’s most important not to quit. In fact, you should train yourself to use the Tool at the very moment you doubt it the most—not to prove that the Tool works, but to develop the right attitude: “When I don’t get immediate results, I become even more committed to using the Tool.” It’s from this practice that you learn to develop faith in higher forces and your ability to connect to them.
How are the Tools different than Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?
CBT has been a step forward within psychotherapy. It introduces the patient to the idea that your thought processes are important and that you can begin to make conscious choices about what you think. Cognition and behavior, by themselves, though, can’t tap into the most powerful aspect of human potential – the ability to trigger real forces from within. When you wake up at 3 in the morning overcome with worry, just rearranging your thoughts won’t get you back to sleep. You need to experience a force much bigger than you, acting on your behalf. Only a Tool – in this case the Grateful Flow – can connect you to the force you need. Used repeatedly, it also leads you to an expanded view of life itself.
What languages have The Tools been translated into and how can I buy a particular translation?
The Tools has been translated into 34 languages. You’ll find a tab for the international editions on our Facebook page.